As a parent, we all go through the ordeal of how to reward/discipline your child without giving them bad habits or breaking their spirit.
Many parents, even at current day and age, use food as punishment/reward. Wrong! Food is a basic need; it should never be used against a child. Either a child gets a dessert sometime or s/he does not, it should not be the result of some action/inaction.
To argue/shout/yell/scream/get angry, does not help much either. Many times, I feel like I am just getting angry at the wall, as children do not respond at all. 7/10 times, it backfires... Keeping that in mind, I have been going around and attending some parenting classes to learn from teachers/experts who deal with children as part of their profession and have years of experience in their back pocket.
In one of the classes, a model was given to us. The idea of the model was to teach children kindness. However, I am using it for more than one purpose. We have discussed at home that whoever gets the most hears on their tree in a month, s/he gets a surprise from mommy beginning of next month.
This is a very cute and creative idea. Basically you print a tree and print 'heart' leaves on another paper and use Velcro as needed.
I add 'hearts' for the times, they do what they are supposed to do and obey the rules and are being kind and do good without being told. And I take heart away for each time they do not listen/ignore/hurt someone. So far, it has worked very well and I intend to keep using it as long as it works.
Many parents, even at current day and age, use food as punishment/reward. Wrong! Food is a basic need; it should never be used against a child. Either a child gets a dessert sometime or s/he does not, it should not be the result of some action/inaction.
To argue/shout/yell/scream/get angry, does not help much either. Many times, I feel like I am just getting angry at the wall, as children do not respond at all. 7/10 times, it backfires... Keeping that in mind, I have been going around and attending some parenting classes to learn from teachers/experts who deal with children as part of their profession and have years of experience in their back pocket.
In one of the classes, a model was given to us. The idea of the model was to teach children kindness. However, I am using it for more than one purpose. We have discussed at home that whoever gets the most hears on their tree in a month, s/he gets a surprise from mommy beginning of next month.
This is a very cute and creative idea. Basically you print a tree and print 'heart' leaves on another paper and use Velcro as needed.
I add 'hearts' for the times, they do what they are supposed to do and obey the rules and are being kind and do good without being told. And I take heart away for each time they do not listen/ignore/hurt someone. So far, it has worked very well and I intend to keep using it as long as it works.
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